Productivity and Marriage

I've found that when Katie is in a bad spell, or indicates that our marriage is broken and needs work, that I become paralyzed. I no longer can concentrate or be productive at work. I tend to play more video games. I may even drink more alcohol during these periods (though not much more...don't get worked up over that). I tend not to want to exercise as much. Everything you might expect for depression.

Now this isn't Katie's problem. It is mine. I need to let Katie's mood not effect me. I need to be able to change my own mindset regardless of what attacks might come my way.

Unfortunately, for decades I have tied my idea of success with:

1. Staying married
2. Staying financially responsible

Right now it seems like both of those are under threat. So this puts me in a deeper state of paralysis.